The Perfect Husband – The Perfect Wife

Everyone is on a constant, exciting and exhilirating journey to finding their own Self within their relationships with their true Twin Soul.

Relationships are meant to be so easy if we just watched and followed our examples from Mother Nature. Yes I know, it's easier said than done - truly, if we were to look more, feel more, and be in a state of being more, and talk a whole lot less, then all our questions would be answered and not only that, but we would also be given the steps of HOW and WHAT to do next.

Let's look at our biggest, more glaring examples. They're so big in fact, that they're in our face every day. Yet we seem to miss them all together because we've never stopped long enough to really "get it" and soak them in. And also because we've gotten so used to them, perhaps we even take them for granted.

So here it is. Soak it in, think about it, meditate about it, watch them, and let them do the work inside of you, and you're off into a whole new direction in life.

What am I talking about?

The sun and the moon. Male and Female. Masculine and Feminine. Our perfect examples.

• The sun is masculine, the moon is feminine.
• The sun radiates, the moon contracts and takes in, she absorbs.
• The sun is light, the moon is dark.
• The sun is hot, the moon is cold.
• The sun initiates, the moon receives (and regives the sun's light in equal measures back to him).
• The sun is much farther away from their "child," planet Earth, the moon always circles around her "child" and protects it.
• The sun never tires and never withholds his rays under any circumstances.
• Even when the moon seems to hide her face or hide behind her child, the sun continues shining his rays in complete trust that eventually she will come forward again and show her full face.
• Likewise the moon trusts that when she's ready to show her full face again, he's there shining on her in his full leadership.
• He always pursues her, he never tires of pursueing and chasing after her, even when she hides behind their "child" he continues pursuing her, knowing full well that she'll always reflect back his amazing glory in due time.
• She never ceases to trust in his leadership and his mission.
• While the sun is simple and steady, she has her rhythms and they both allow each other their purposes.
• Never for a second do either one of them leave their galactic path; they're a team and they stay on course.

Sounds pretty simple doesn't it? It is - And it isn't...

Sidenote: Before I go on and to prevent a virtual beating from anyone, please let me state that this post has nothing to do with high heels, bimbos, fakes books, and steroid pumping machoism. To conclude such a message from this post only would show where you are in your self development. Instead, use your higher self to reveal to you what true masculinity and femininity have to do with: energy. There are plenty of masculine women out there and more and more feminine men, and there's nothing wrong with that as long as there is balance. Finding balance as one person is hard enough, it's even harder when two people want to merge lives. That's what this post is about.

Back to the topic at hand. Imagine the sun having an attitude because the moon is on one of her "cycles" and is hiding from him, so he decides to stop pursuing her, and stops shining his light on her. Imagine if she decided to hop over to another galaxy, abandoning their union and their "child" planet Earth, while she's off duty getting light from another galaxy's sun. We'd have a cosmic disaster. In human language this is called cheating, or divorce.

Granted, no one probably ever thought of it this way because we've come to blindly trust that the sun always comes up, and always shines. We know the moon changes our attitudes during a full moon and we are googly-eyed over her full face over a beautiful lake and we feel her magic and yet what we're really looking at during a full moon is a mere reflection of HIS light shining on her.

Are you a woman that truly reflects her man's magnificance or are you trying to outshine him?


Does your woman beam, glow and radiate?

If not perhaps you're with the wrong person or you're simply not doing your job shining on her or receiving and reflecting his light...

All a balanced woman ever needs to do is hold her own space and reflect back what he first gives her (and it should be nothing but warmth, light and leadership in which she can trust). If he's not shining on you, trade up for someone who longs to shine their light on you.

In other words, a great leader is always reflected in his woman's face (as is a leader that withholds his leadership). You can always tell when a woman radiates and when she's in pain. It never fails to be traced back to the masculine somehow. Don't take this as finger pointing because a woman needs to also be able to receive his light or no matter how hard he tries, she just won't beam. I am saying it to highlight and underline the tremendous power you have as a male with any woman. This also includes your employees by the way. Do they shine? Do you realize, truly realize that your power is all that matters on this planet? And that your woman's ability to hold your power, surrender to you and reflect back your power to you is what closes the circle of life and completes life?? Do you realize that just like on a battery you are the + (plus) end of the unit and your woman is the - (minus) end of the unit - and together you are complete? You're no more important than she is and she's no more important than you are. It is your togetherness that brings juice to whatever it is you are creating for humanity.

And do you, woman, understand that unless you're surrendered in your own power as a woman no matter how hard your man works and shines on you that he will fail because you try to be in competition with him, because you refuse his gifts and claim that you can do it not only all alone but also better than him?

Women, how do you know if you're on track? By your stress level. Stress is based on adrenaline, a male wonder hormone. Women, however, exhaust themselves on adrenaline. Women need oxytocin to be in power. So if you're stressed you're running off masculine juice (adrenaline). Stop, slow down, hand over some responsibilities and find the true goddess within. You'll do everyone around you a favor, not only your man, but also your children and your employees.

As a woman your greatest asset is in being a woman (not a man).

What if the woman is simply disconnected or absent and too numb or dull to even feel his rays, let alone reflect them back to him? It's called a lifetime of disappointment and a lack of chance to ever be able to surrender into her man fully...Do you as a woman even know what it feels like and looks like to be be completely surrendered where time and space and even the edges of your body completely disappear and disolve into your sun?

I'm learning that in order for the moon to be receptive of his full light, she must first of all be present in the now. She must be willing to trust his leadership and she must never pursue him by pushing him or controlling him or wanting to change him; she knows that this is his job, not hers. In today's world where the feminine movement is teaching women to take over "male roles" and to give instructions to employees, both men and women, we have become depolarized and de-feminized (if that's even a word). There's nothing wrong with having a powerful position in business, provided the woman doesn't become a man internally at her core. A powerful career can be had while a woman comes from her ultimate feminine place. When a woman has a powerful career but comes from a masculine place, she only exhausts herself and the end result are diseases, especially those immune type deficient diseases such as Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue etc.

Today's 'lucy'-Whipped Men

Most men are "'lucy'-whipped" and they're confused as to what a true leader's role is. There is nothing more sad and repellent than a man who doesn't know his purpose and doesn't follow his true calling. How can we possibly fully surrender to a man who is unstable in his manhood? And likewise, there is nothing more miraculous and attractive than a man who knows his purpose and follows it wholeheartedly, with a "no matter what" attitude. Such a man women can follow, such a man women can trust, such a man women know they can't push around and not that we're looking to push our men around, but we need to know more than anything that he can stand up for himself, his purpose and most of all, for what is right (in spite of us). Only then can we truly surrender and be 'all woman' and give up control and give up the reigns and do what we do best: be a woman who reflects back to him what he first gave us - his unconditional leadership and love to his mission, which includes us as women.

Most people if I were to ask them if they know what the terms 'husband' and 'wife' mean or where they came from wouldn't have a clue. Here are their true meanings:
What is a Husband:

From the late Old English (in the senses 'male head of a household' and 'manager, steward'), from Old Norse húsbóndi 'master of a house', from hús 'house' + bóndi 'occupier and tiller of the soil'. The original sense of the verb was 'till, cultivate'.

What is a Wife:
Old English wīf 'woman', of Germanic origin; related to Dutch wijf and German Weib

Are you getting the difference? It's a man's job to cultivate and DO and a woman's job to BE all the woman she is to her man (and in doing so she is cultivating too and she is helping him be the best man he can be). It's a never ending, beautiful cycle.

Where to find such a man?

It's not about finding him as much as it is recognizing him and most of all, letting him find you and recognize you. It's not your job as a woman to chase after him. It's his job to chase after you...Remember, the rays of the sun shine outward, the moon draws to herself. A woman true to herself doesn't hunt for Mr. Right, she attracts him. He'll know when he sees you and feels your essence. He will be relentless in his pursuit of you because he knows that you are part of his mission because you make his mission easier by helping him multiply his rays (by reflecting his own love back to him). All you can do is work on your own femininity, your own beingness, your own essence, your own womanhood. He's quite the man, you know, and he needs a strong woman at his side.

Is your Moon truly out there?

I also realize that men reading this may wonder if their "moon" is truly out there. It's a scientific and astronomical fact that all planets and moons are born of Suns. What this means is that your seed was here first (sorry ladies). Therefore, your moon must be "out there." It can't be otherwise. But before finding her "out there" you must find her "in here." Remember, she was born of you, so you had her at one point. In fact, she never left you, it only appears this way. First recognize her within you, call her within you. All you need to do to "find her again" is to decide that you're the leader, man up about ALL areas of your life and be about YOUR purpose. Let your 'yes' be a 'yes' and your 'no' be a 'no.' Your word must be worth gold or she'll lose confidence in you at an instant. Shine, shine, and shine some more. And before you know it you will recognize her in front of you because what you are recognizing is in reality your Self.

Is your Sun truly out there?

As far as women is concerned: He is shining out there "somewhere." Likewise you're just hiding your face, in an eclipse kind of way, so you can't even see that he's looking for you. Be your Self, go inward, recognize him there first, be the "dark" and mysterious that you are and find his light there first. Be all woman, all feminine. Stop playing the role of your man. Yes, if you're single and a single Mom at that, you must continue working and paying your bills and being father and mother all at the same time. That's okay, just play your feminine parts that way: all feminine! Start treating yourself like the woman you want to feel like; the way you want your man to treat you. Call him through your actions of how you treat yourself first. Above all, keep the holy seat next to you reserved for him and him alone. Do not waste your time with 'temporaries' as they're only muddying your energy.

The good news is that you don't have to look for him out there in the galaxy, he's obviously here on this planet somewhere. And since the moon controls all water on planet Earth, and humans are made up of 80-90% water, it should be fairly easy to draw him to you (just like the moon controls ebb and flow). Surrender to his light now, even though he doesn't seem to be in the picture as of yet, and before you know it, you'll recognize his light from within and your reunion will be the joyous event that it is meant to be.

The worlds needs balance. The world needs balanced couples! Choosing who your life partner is marks your most important decision ever. Choosing your rightful partner is the mother load of all decisions as this person can make or break you and your life.

Here are a few more articles about this topic and Twin Souls in general:
http://corefreedom.com/forums/soulmates-twin-souls-twin-flames.24
http://corefreedom.com/threads/edgar-cayce-explains-the-love-of-twin-flames.57
http://corefreedom.com/threads/your-holy-kingdom-of-love-–-waiting-for-royalty.47